I object myself

Stress will kill all your good intentions. The chance of actually performing those acts that we are not accustomed to, but did plan, will drop dramatically when we experience stress. Hindrances and problems that we come across while trying to change our behavior, will make us stressful. Two very recognizable stress factors are interruptions throughout our action and the idea of not having enough time. The situation as we planned it to be like Gollwitzer did a lot of research on this subject, his implementation intentions can be a good start to prevent ourselves to relapse into old behavior. Implementation intentions are more tangible and practical intentions, with a planned moment, situation and so on. Implementation intentions will help us to remember what we planned to do. Through the addition of triggers (where, what, when) we are more likely to think of our intention and succeed in actually executing it. The actual situation The problem with implementation intentions is that they are focused on a positive frame in which we plan our future behavior and everything goes according to plan. This – of course – is far from how it often goes. Whenever we meet a problem or hindrance that keeps us from our old behavior, it will give us stress. Thinking about the possible problems we can encounter will not only give us a quick answer how to stick to our original plan. Thinking through possible objections and problems will also make us react less stressful to the objections. An example Maybe you intent to be nicer to customers at work. You just had a course and are determined to stay friendly no matter what happens. Then there comes a customer who is really angry at you for...

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I know a person who always intends to do lots of things and somehow doesn’t get to it. That person will be me. But I guess (and am pretty sure) that this is fairly recognizable. Willing to do something is not the problem, I really and genuinely intend to do what I plan. It just slips my mind. The problem is I just don’t remember I had an intention. In my former blog I talked about the difference between automatically and consciously started behavior. There are so many stimuli through the day and so many things to remember. It is almost special we remember to do a lot of things that are on our to-do-list. Automatic behavior can help us greatly for it makes the remembering less effortful. Unfortunately to get your desired behavior into a habit isn’t done overnights. Describe your future behavior Implementation intentions are a great way to easily remember planned behavior. They are also a great starting point for future habits. Implementation intentions are intentions that are as specific as possible. To make the remembering as easy as possible, you will have to make the circumstances of your planned behavior as clear and described as you can. This creates much higher chances of actually performing the behavior you planned (Gollwitzer, Gollwitzer and Sheeran). Try to plan where, how and when you will carry out your intended behavior (Gollwitzer, Bayer and McCulloch). Try this formula: “If situation X (where, how and when) occurs, I will demonstrate behavior Y.” All the described characteristics of the surrounding of our planned behavior serve as a reminder for the actual behavior. Optimizing: really tomorrow Making your own implementation intentions is your best option. This way chances are biggest you will...